Why I don't post on social media

It is addictive. Not posting ensures that I'm spending my time on what I actually want, not what the algorithm wants. In general, a product that thrives on addiction gets a thumbs down from me.

Traditional social media posts feel too self-centered, too selfish. It feels like I'm shouting into an open room, "Look at me!" I don't want to waste people's time. I prefer to share things that could be useful.

Most posts aren't a real representation of who I am. The most significant things I do aren't Instagram material. I don't want likes for that one insignificant weekend trip. That trip is not my life nor who I am. It almost feels like lying.

Posting takes me out of the moment. When I am with someone, I really try to give them my attention. I never want to be thinking about what I might post later. I'd rather be fully there. Staying present is hard enough without any distractions. (Although, I do wish I took more pictures, but just for me.)

I don't want my friends to feel like an accessory. I think my Mom uses Facebook too much, but to each their own. However, I won't let her post very many pictures of me because I often feel like a trophy being flaunted. This isn't my Mom's intention of course. But I don't want to do the same thing and make my friends feel like I'm spending time with them for likes.

With all of these combined, I'm happier not posting. Anything worth sharing can be found here, on my website.

2023-04-21